And I am learning that boys are literal. This means that, whether it really is what you mean and if they know full well what you mean, they are gonna do and respond to exactly what you say -- even if that is not really what you are saying.
Last year my hubby was in Europe for work and I was holding down the fort here at home.I had been noticing that, by the time chores were done and school began (we homeschool around here), it was getting later than I'd like. So we had several conversations about getting up earlier, discussing what time is reasonable,how they'd wake up and if some needed to use the new alarm clocks they received for Christmas, or if they should just use the cell phone etc.
Please do view the video below to see the brilliance of the alarm clock! Such a loving and thoughtful gift.
Then, one day, this conversation:
Mom (that's me): "Remember you guys, everyone needs to get up earlier tomorrow. I want you all up by, (I don't remember what time I said so I'll just pick the number) 7:00, okay?"
Some Boys:
Other boys and One Girl (not really smiling, but open and trying to have good attitudes): "Yes Mom."
Next morning everyone was up earlier. Not necessarily exactly at the specified time, but close. And, of course, I just KNOW the first day is hardest and the next day everyone is going to be punctual. So I don't nag or make a big deal of it. We just go about our day.
Next morning Mimmy (that's one of my names for The Girl) is up at 7. And a couple boys. Baby doesn't count. I want him to sleep in a little.
Two are strangely missing.
Knowing they must be sick unto death to not show up, I go down and wake them up. They are as healthy as can be. I
Mom (me again): "Boys, why didn't you get up at 7?"
Boys in unison:"I didn't know we were supposed to be up at 7."
Mom: "What are you talking about? I told you the other day we were going to start getting up earlier."
Boy In Question One: " No, you didn't".
Mom: "WHAT????!!!"
Boy In Question Two:" You just said we needed to be up earlier the next day. We didn't know you wanted us up early again today."
Mom:
We've got to S-P-E-L-L it out Moms.
But, wait. I am confused. "They" say males only hear a certain percentage of what we say. So we are supposed to be succinct and not too wordy.
Don't explain enough= not understood. Explain too much= Tuned Out.
Hmmm, I think I am starting to see a plot here.
Literally.