Tuesday, November 17, 2009

In Company With Crazy

 

So yesterday I was in the car by myself.

I was listening to Dr. Laura.

WHY? Why do I feel compelled to listen to her when she hurts my feelings even though she isn’t talking to me? Maybe because the other talk option gets on my nerves with his perpetual hot air.

Well, anyway, I was listening to her.

I hear several callers and I agree with the doctor on some of her advice and don’t on other advice. Nothing new.

But then this single mom calls in. BOTH of her sons, as in ALL of her children, are serving as Marines in Iraq. She shares that she is having a hard time being happy, and a hard time not obsessing over the fact that her boys are in harm’s way. That she doesn’t have a spouse there to hold her when she cries, she is all alone.

I agree with DL’s first point. She points out that her son is also in Iraq and she has broached this subject with him before. He tells her that if we can’t be happy, then what they are doing by defending our country is in vain. Okay, I see that point. What a noble and sweet thing to say and a great thing for her to repeat.

But then she tells the mom that if she is thinking about her sons, and how they are in harm’s way all of the time and obsessing about it, that is not “normal”. That she needs to seek counsel for this “not normal problem”. That she must be prone to obsessing about things as an escape.

WHAT???!!   How can she possibly be serious? Can the world really be coming to this? We expect a mother to put her son out of her mind, when she knows he is in harm’s way constantly? That it isn’t “normal” to be preoccupied with it? That she should just go ahead and put on her cocktail dress and host her dinner party, and have a picnic and listen to music and take a bath and sleep at night – without a care in the world?

If it were all of my sons, or two, or even just one – you bet I’d obsess. I don’t know how I’d function except for by the grace of God Himself. It would continually be on my mind. I’d be covering them in prayer continually.

So if she’s not normal, than neither am I. Call me crazy.

 

Thank you Mothers Of Our Troops Everywhere. I’m thinking about them too.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Poof!

Ugh. When my new laptop crashed I lost my offline writing program. I need to have it reinstalled from where I hope I saved it but I haven't taken the time.

This morning I got all ready and got the kids situated doing their school assignments. I got my cup of delicious tea and sat down to write a post.

And write I did! I wrote a post I was really feeling.

An entire post.

Then, when I went to publish it, I saw the words "blogger could not save"...

I tried to reconnect but my (not very good) AT&T air card would not.

I had to restart. When I came back on, NONE of my work had successfully saved.

Now my kids are done with their assignments. My tea is about gone.

So this is my post.

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

"This Is It", My Thoughts



Isaiah 45:18 For thus saith the LORD that created the heavens; God himself that formed the earth and made it; he hath established it, he created it not in vain, he formed it to be inhabited: I am the LORD; and there is none else.


We went to see the Michael Jackson movie "This Is It" tonight, which was the first night it was open in my area. I know many of you are planning to see it and I am not going to give anything away!



I went more out of nostalgia, and maybe a little curiosity, than as a crazed fan. In fact, I wasn't really even allowed to listen to Michael Jackson when I was growing up. But come on -- even I knew most of his songs by heart. They have become part of our very culture.


As I watched I was reminded of what a great talent MJ was. Unbelievable talent that I can't imagine having been bestowed all on one person. I had feared that two whole hours was too long to watch and that I might get bored. But it was truly captivating to watch and to listen. And I don't know if I could have seen the beauty I saw in it if I hadn't also felt the sadness. Disclaimer: There were definitely at least two parts that made me feel uncomfortable (a scene where girls are dressed and dancing provocatively and the scenes for Thriller).

Despite all of the questions about him, and all of the debate about who he was, if he was a bad or a good person, discussion about how strange people would say he was, etc. I felt sad. Because from the very beginning of the movie, I began to have a feeling I couldn't shake for the whole movie. I think maybe my eyes were opened to a truth I had not grasped before.

Before I can get to that, let me explain...

When I think about our desires as people, and what we have difficulties with, I have to go back to reminding myself what we were created for.

Isaiah 43:7 Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.

Revelation 4:11 Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.

Psa 102:18 This shall be written for the generation to come: and the people which shall be created shall praise the LORD.

So I am reminded that we were created to love and worship our Creator. And we were designed to share that Love.

We were not designed to be adulated. We were designed to adore.

So as I watched I was so impressed with how sad it was that every time Michael tried to show love, people acted like they were not worthy of his love and deflected it all back on him. People literally worshipped him, a human being, and did not allow him to really give love in return. At one point in the movie someone even verbalized it by saying it was like church.

It truly even frustrated me as I watched. It's kind of like that compliment you give that your friend never really receives.

"You are so beautiful."


"You nut. No I'm not. So sweet of you to say though."


"No, really! You are beautiful!".


"No, YOU are."


"You are gorgeous inside and out and I love you."


"NO, YOU are gorgeous and I LOVE YOU MORE."

It's like they are saying "I'm rubber, you're glue. Whatever love you give bounces off of me and sticks to you."

... makes me feel sad and tired just pretending I am having that conversation. "Just acccept my compliment already, and accept my love...PLEASE!"

What a sad and frustrating thing, probably even confusing, to never really be allowed to give love but to continually receive the worship of people, when you yourself are a person, and you also were created to worship and to praise and to love.

It seems with any gift, any strength we are given by God, there is a weakness. I often think artistic people feel things more deeply. So when someone feels deeply, when they love deeply, and they cannot find a way to either express their love, or find a way that they can get others to receive that love, it makes perfect sense to me that they would be perceived as strange. In fact, I think it would be miraculous if they were not weird.

It reminds me of that song "Starry, Starry Night" about Vincent Van Gogh, who was also very artistic. Seeing beauty and trying to share it. Feeling like no one will listen, really listen, to your heart. Everyone exalts you when you know intrinsically that you should not be exalted. And they turn all of your love back onto you. So really, they never truly even LOVE you, they just adulate you.

What pain we go through when we are not what we are created to be.


Saturday, October 24, 2009

Soup's On Saturday! Soups for Sickies


This week the Facebook status feed on my page has been filled with updates on people and families who have been hit with different illnesses, including several with H1N1. We are also around alot of these people in real life, and two of my boys are in a college setting and ride public transportation. So I am sure our family is being exposed to lots of nasty germs every day.


I remember staying home sick as a teenager. One thing I did that made me feel comforted was making myself chicken noodle soup (I hate to confess it was often Top Ramen!) and watching Perry Mason at 12 noon.

Did you have any special things you did, or do you do any certain thing now, if you or one of your family members gets sick?


Of course I am praying we don't catch anything. I have lots on hand to boost our immune systems, as well as items on hand to help if we do happen to catch anything.

One thing I do believe helps for both prevention and for actual flu and cold symptoms is bone broth. You've heard the addages about chicken soup -- and they are true. However, the most healing benefits come from the bones. I believe that adding a well made bone broth to a well made vegetable broth makes a delicious as well as nutritious and immune supporting soup.

I found some free range chickens on sale at a local health food store and ordered a case so I'd get a further 10% off. This helped me get my 12 chickens for $70.00. This works out to $5.83 each, which is a pretty good deal for free range chicken bought from a source I know and trust. I can find cheaper chickens, but I feel it is important to do my best to buy local, free-range and, if possible, organic sources for meat.

I have worked on my basic chicken soup recipe for several years now and have decided to share it today for Soups On Saturday. My recipe is formulated for an 8 quart pot, so please scale your ingredients accordingly.


24 Hour Basic Bone and Veggie Soup Base

~ Rinse one chicken and place it in an 8 quart cooking pot (I found my red Le Creuset 8 quart at Costco and used my refund check for it a last year!).



~ Season with desired seasonings. I always use lemon pepper liberally, and sea salt to taste. I also usually use garlic. But keep in mind that if you use too much garlic and you are making the soup for someone with a stomach flu, they may not be able to eat it. I add other seasonings after the chicken has been boiled and has simmered.

~ Pour cold water over seasoned chicken. This is where the size of your pan makes a difference. If it is a larger pan, you don't want to fill it as high. You don't want your broth to taste watery. For my 8 quart pot I fill until chicken is almost covered.





~ To this I add about 1/4 cup of white vinegar. This helps to extract the calcium from the bones. Most people add about 2 tablespoons , but personally, I like the taste it adds to our broth so I add more. And I feel this is the secret to how wonderful the soup tastes when it is done. It gives it a tang that is delicious.


~ Cover pot and bring to boil. Then turn it down to a simmer and cook overnight.


~ In the morning when I get up, I remove all of the larger pieces of meat I can fairly easily remove with a spoon or fork, let them cool and refrigerate for later.


~ Skim any of the "sludge" that has raised to the top of the broth.


~ Then I add a variety of vegetables, whatever I have around that sounds good. This is to make the vegetable broth. This always includes celery, carrots, cabbage and onion. It may also include mushrooms, zucchini or winter squash, turnips, etc. To my last batch I added beet greens for an hour of the simmer time then removed them so they would not add too strong of a taste. It also added just enough of that wonderful color only beets can add!


~ Bring broth back to a boil then allow to simmer several hours.


~ Pour the whole mixture through colander over another pot. Pour strained broth back into original pot. Separate out the veggies, pick out all bones and skin from colander and discard. Remove any chicken meat pieces you can easily pull out and add them back to the broth.




~ Run boiled veggies through your blender, adding some of the broth to help it blend more easily. Then add the mixture back to the remaining broth and stir well.

~ Now I add tarragon and more sea salt and lemon pepper to taste. I also usually end up adding a little more vinegar to get it to just the right tanginess. Sometimes I also add fresh squeezed lemon juice.


~ This is when I cut up and add back the chicken meat I formerly removed, and more veggies. I add more onion and carrot, mushrooms, zucchini and cabbage plus whatever else I might have around that sounds good. Right now I have alot of winter squash so I dice some of that up (raw) and throw it in.


~ Bring back to a boil then simmer only until veggies are to desired tenderness. Don't let them get mushy.


~ Now you can add whatever else you like. Sometimes I make my great grandma's noodle recipe and add those in. My family also enjoys dumplings so I sometimes add those. But usually I prefer to serve it over rice, couscous or cooked pasta rather than add it in because I don't like the starch to soak up all of the broth.


Do you have a favorite broth, soup or stew that you eat when you don't feel well? I'd love to have your recipe!


NEXT WEEK: Soups using SAUSAGE. Yum. I can't wait to try some recipes!








Saturday, October 17, 2009

Soup's On Saturday! Pumpkin Soups



Today's theme is Pumpkin Soup. So I searched for just the right recipe and I made Velvety Pumpkin Soup with Blue Cheese and Bacon. And I think it is a pretty good recipe going by all of the reviews online. The blue cheese didn't do a thing for me. It just didn't seem to "go". What
I really liked about it was the bacon you sprinkle on top. It really made the soup for me.


Cuz, well...


I've decided pumpkin soup is not my favorite. Not by itself anyway. It's the texture I'm talking about here. It's smooth yet grainy at the same time. I did use my own pumpkin rather than the canned variety. I pureed it myself in the Vita-Mix. Which hasn't been working as well as it should be. Maybe that's the problem.


When I make this Pumpkin Chili my friend Julie C. told me about last year I did enjoy that. But you don't puree the pumpkin for that recipe. And it calls for cumin, which I love.


That said, when I included the addition of bacon, I did enjoy this soup. It was a special soup, and very festive. I will probably never make it again. But I think the recipe is a great one and very simple to make. If you like pureed pumpkin.

Maybe if I add some apple? I am not sure what I am going to do with a pot of it. If any of you locals want it, let me know. Otherwise, the chickens will be having Thanksgiving early.

Does anyone else have a pumpkin soup recipe they actually enjoy? Any tricks to make it not be a little grainy? Any more recipes that use chunks of pumpkin rather than pureed? I have more pumpkin to use and I don't want to use it all in desserts. So I'd love more soup and stew recipes using it.


It's definitely getting to be quite fall-like around here. I am ready to hunker down and get comfy. NEXT WEEK'S THEME will be Soups That Help You Feel Better. I like keeping nourishing and comforting food ideas around for kiddos (and other folks) with sort throats. And "they" are anticipating alot of that sort of thing this season. Some in our extended family have already had H1N1. And I am hearing alot of people sniffling and saying they are not feeling well.

Do you have a broth or soup recipe that is comforting when you don't feel well? Or one that seems to maybe even make you feel better when you eat it? Maybe it has just the right texture or spices, or contains a secret ingredient for helping to fight off sickness. If you do, I'd love to know.


Hoping you and yours stay healthy this week!




Sunday, October 11, 2009

Menu Plan Monday, October 12-18



Don't forget, I'd love to see your recipes for Soup's On Saturday each week. Tis the season!


This week will be pretty busy because I will be volunteering quite a bit of my time, along with a couple of my sons, at a kid's resale event. I tried to plan for recipes that will be quick to put together or crock pot recipes.

For Sunday Dinner I plan to make biscuits. I had a recipe I just loved. But, alas, I have misplaced it. I am going to look for it and also review some other recipes I have. I want a recipe that makes a puffy, soft-on-the-inside-but-crunchy-outside kind of melt-in-your-mouth biscuits. Whole wheat would be my preference. Do you have one? (Cannot come from a can or a mix.)

On Saturday my Littlest Man will turn Three Years Old. Weird. That went by so quickly that my head is spinning. Which is probably why I have had such a hard time remembering things lately.

I probably do not have a tumor.

But I have wondered.

Littlest Man is also my Mr. Picky. His favorite foods are pretty much all dairy products. So, if I were to make a meal for him, it would include cottage cheese, string cheese, yogurt, kefir, pickled green beans, maybe some nuts and a piece of Killer Seed Bread.

Or just a quesadilla.

I think we'll go out for dinner instead. Maybe Mexican.


Monday: Lentil Tacos possibly with homemade tortillas (depending on whether or not I have time!). We enjoy Lentil Soup so plan to use this Lentil recipe with cumin to change it up a bit. The kids might think it is a bit strange to eat it this way so we may end up eating it plain or with cottage cheese rather than using the tortillas.

Tuesday: Slow Cooker Enchiladas Today is my book club day so I'm going to make ask my 17 year old son to put this together for me.

Wednesday: Test Soup for Soup's On Saturday! theme of "Pumpkins Everywhere".

Thursday: Leftover Buffet (Two of our older boys eat dinner at youth group so tonight is a good night for leftovers)


Saturday: 3rd Birthday --- All About The Littlest Boy

Sunday: Buttermilk Pot Roast with Perfect Biscuits *see above


Have a flexible week:)



Saturday, October 10, 2009

Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

This Thursday, October 15th, is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.

For people who have lost a part of themselves in the form of a precious child taken too soon, it can be a blessing to know that you remember their children. Whether the loss happened recently or many years ago, that child is still loved and it is comforting to know they are remembered.



Some communities and churches make an effort to commemorate this day with fundraising walks, dinners, candlelight vigils and more. You can go here to find activities in your area.

A Butterfly's Touch is a beautiful organization I am aware of.



Please do take a few minutes to think about who you might be able to touch this year by praying, acknowledging a little one, or participating in a fundraiser.